Let me tell you a quick story about how resilience has played a role in my life. In 2004, I had an epileptic seizure, fell 7 feet, broke my neck, sustained a spinal cord injury, and became a quadriplegic. I spent 3 1/2 months on a ventilator in the critical care unit, then three more months in the hospital and six months in rehabilitation. I had to learn a new completely way of living as I was paralyzed from below the chest down and I had limited movement in my hands. I Have so much gratitude for amazing head on my shoulders!
At first, I was working hard to get off the ventilator. I made a promise to myself that I would be off it in 10-days because the doctor told me I would never breathe on my own again. 10-days from that day I was breathing on my own. It was at this point I realized how powerful the mind is. I was lifting weights and going to therapy trying to get my physical function back. The doctors told me that I would have to live in a long- term care facility… What did they know. I was also working hard on maintaining my mental health, as the trauma made me both anxious and depressed. Being resilient during this time was the most difficult thing I had ever been faced with and throughout the ordeal there was little to no mental health care available. I felt like I no longer identified with who I was. I had extremely low self-confidence, and I could never picture myself accomplishing anything worthwhile. I thought my life as I knew it was over.
The bottom fell out from under me when I was on public transit in my wheelchair, and I was not buckled in properly. I flew out of my chair broke my femur, damaged my pelvis, got whiplash, split my head open, and bruised my ribs, my hip, and my elbow. This literally meant I needed help with everything.
As you can imagine, I was in bad shape and desperate, but I wasn't ready to give up on my dream of becoming a psychotherapist and helping others through their difficult times. After 14-years of postsecondary education I finally opened my first practice!
There were several things that turned it around for me. I am extremely lucky and having gratitude for the things in my life really helped! I have wonderful family and a best friend of over 25-years who has stood behind me every step of the way. I had a dog who I never thought I could take care of and I did until he passed at 14 ½. Taking care of him proved that I could do anything I put my mind to! I am surrounded by great people, which I think is what can turn anything around. My Dad always tells me that success is all about who you choose to surround yourself with. Now I am so grateful for my new puppy!
At that point, everything changed! I discovered that raising people’s resilience factors increases their focus and productivity as it protects against worry and stress. After seeing many clients, I realized that most people do not actually take the time to think about what they think about. When people self-actualize and begin to understand their world view, they then can then choose to take accountability and shift their mindset and attitude and an entirely new world can open-up before them.
I also recognized that creative visualization helps one to foster mastery. Mastery is your belief that you can achieve any task that you set your mind to. As what you believe is true for you, as you are what you think about. Keeping your goal in your minds eye helps you automatically behave in a way that assists you achieving your success. I believe that the mind is in control of the body. Yes, the research shows that if we have poor mental health, that we are more likely to have poor physical health.
This meant that I had way less fear about failing than I ever have before. Because I know that if I am failing, I am not really failing because failure is when you stop trying. I am consistently perfecting!
This also meant that I was able to raise my resilience which allowed me to deal with the stress due to my chronic pain and concentrate on my goals. I learned that keeping busy and following through with inspired actions and discipline was the way to create personal success. This also meant that as the same time as helping others I was able to get off disability and create an income that allows me to be even more independent and achieve my dreams of having a comfortable life while having a huge impact on the world.
This is why I am so passionate about telling you about " The D-STRESS Productivity Framework ," so you can experience being resilient enough that stress affects you in minimal ways, so you have the proper attitude to succeed. Instead of focusing on negativity and stress you will have the headspace and personal power to be focused and productive and live the life that you always imagined.